Most of the stories surrounding empathy inadvertently get written by somebody feeling out of control. For a lot of those people it feels much more like a curse than a blessing. An invisible force that there is no control over when it comes or when it goes that forces you to feel other people’s pain. No, I do not deny that this is true for some people that do indeed feel out of control but I assure you this is not the truth of the gift! Being a highly empathic person myself I can indeed feel somebody’s pain but I also feel their joy. Whatever moment I choose to be connected to them, is the feeling that I end up sharing. When you are working with somebody it is not only the hard moments that need to be validated or audited, it is also the positive and joyous feelings within them. These emotions are equally valuable when working with somebody.