Learning to Trust
Learning to trust your own intuition is a process that everybody goes through, but few people talk about. Reflectively, you’re talking about sharing the process of not trusting yourself in the first place. Not necessarily the first story that you want to bring up at a party or when you start to teach somebody.
What does that look like? Let’s use one of those first examples that we talked about having that feeling that you know someone’s about to call you before the phone rings. Now it stands to reason that in the beginning most people won’t say a word, they just have a funny little smile on their face as soon as the phone rings. What if you committed that, what if you spoke that out loud to somebody to say the phone’s about to ring? Now understanding that this is an obviously simple example, but it really sheds light on the issue itself at hand. When you know something that there is no reason for you to know what do you do with it?
Let’s bring that a step further now and let’s say you know somebody is sick and needs medical attention. Now this is an escalation for sure but is it enough to stay quiet when the compulsion to say something overrules the need to hide?
This is the question that every person moving to grow their own intuition needs to answer on their own terms. The easy answer is that if somebody else’s health or well-being is at stake then absolutely you should say something! However, the reality of the situation is that’s not always true. Trusting those impulses or trusting that guidance in the moment regardless of what any story or teaching is going to tell you, takes time and practice. That trust for yourself usually comes after establishing that communication and building that trust with your team. Once that’s all done, you start to realize that they are one and the same.
And the truth of this situation is that it works more like breadcrumbs. You start in small pieces; you build a relationship up; you test the waters when you feel safe to do so and slowly it starts with breaking off bigger pieces, one at a time.
Having the courage to move through those self-doubts is the only real way to build that confidence inside yourself. I would love to tell you that there’s some magic potion or magic affirmation that you can say that will take away this fear. Unfortunately, this is not the case. True confidence comes from one shaky step at a time.